Saying "No" Saying, "no," may sound easy, but sometimes it can be incredibly difficult. There are feelings, relationships and friends to think about.

All of these can be affected by one simple word, but a lot of times saying, "no," is the best choice.

So how do we do it?

How do I say, 'No,' and still be friends?

1. Be Assertive - Use both your words and your body to get your point across.:

• Look the person in the eyes, talk to only one person, and speak with confidence.
• Stand or sit up straight and repeat the friend's name several times during the conversation.
• Use one or two good reasons for refusing.
• Assure your friend that you want to do an activity with them - but not that activity. If your suggestions aren't taken, say, "Good-bye."
• Turn and leave the group - and don't look back.

2. Learn to Refuse and Say 'No" - Now that you know how to show that you're more assertive, here are some suggestions for how to handle a peer pressure situation.

• Stall and get information/ask questions. "Where ae you going?" "Who else is going to be there?"
• State the consequences. "You seriously want me to put my future on the line for something as stupid as that?" "We could get arrested."
• Come up with a better idea. "I'll tell you what... I'll be at Jake's house playing Xbox. You can join us if you want."

How do I say, 'No," to a jerk?

• Saying, 'No,' to a jerk is easy because you don't need to worry about his/her feelings or your friendship. All you have to do is show the person how stupid he/she os acting, and then leave.